Nobody teaches you about how to manage your business or manage your relationships or marriage. Everybody tries to do the best that they can.
How to make your business and your marriage work? Even if it’s not going to be perfect, you just have to figure it out by yourself because no one gives you an instruction manual.
What happens when the business and the marriage clays together? Why is so much negative publicity about marriages? Why do so many marriages end up in divorce?
Yes, sometimes it can be hard work to maintain a marriage but just like anything else it’s worth fighting for! Would you fight for your job if you were sure that it’s the right job for you? Of course, you would if you know your other option would be a boring 9 to 5 job. Why should be marriage different? Marriage can be successful! Two people can get along and work it out and be more beneficial and successful because of that. You have to discuss your thoughts with your partner, your wishes, your ideas. You have to be on the same page for the marriage to work. You have to support each other, not impose your decision on your partner. You have to be certain about yourself, and you have to know your partner and be certain about him / her.
If you are uncertain about your life, just take a step back, look at your life and try to eliminate those things that makes you uncertain about yourself. There are a lot of things that can make me lose confidence and be uncertain about myself, but I know that confidence and certainty are the keys of getting what I want from life.
What can we do to increase our confidence level?
First of all and most important surround yourself with confident people that have sweg and focus. If you hear every day about other people’s success and you know you can achieve it and you work hard you will become succesfull. If you surround yourself with people who are complaining every day about how owfell their life is, how they become a victim of everything you will becom a victim and you will feel sorry for yourself. You will stop dreaming; you will stop fighting for your dream. Best advice? Stop watching TV! You want news? Get them online! Stop watching all the negative shows about how people fight, about the new shootings in the suburbs. Invest that time in yourself. Spend more time with people who know what they want and and they get it what ever it takes! Quit doing the things that makes you be uncertain about yourself because self esteem is the self inflected injury of others actions
When you work extra hours it makes you fell better about yourself, when you work out at the gym it makes you feel proud about your body. Even if my body is a little chuncky, I feel better because I worked out today! I know I am on the right path, so my self estime is biger then when I start complaining about my body and not doing anything about it. I will do anything I can to make an investement in myself, to make me stand taller, to make me run faster, it worth investing in. Short periods of study, learning new things can give me confidence. I know next time when I will bump in the same problem I will know how to handle it, I will know what to say. It’s all about your confidence.
Things that makes me unconfortable like confronting people chosing to just let it go, not having the hard talk at the right moment, makes me uncertain about myself. I know that if I will be confident enough to stand up for myself, I will fill better about myself. What you do and things you avoid doing contribute to your certainity and uncertainity.
What makes me certain about myself are small things like writing down my goals every morning when I wake up. This keeps me focus about where I’m going with my life. It helps me focus on my goals and not waste my time with things that are not important.
I keep my planner full with activities. Beginning from business meetings and ending with my kids swim classes it’s always full. I don’t have a single hour when I don’t have anything to do!
You are probably asking yourself right now why do I do that? I’m just triying to be the best that I can be; I am trying to reach my potencial.
Why are people uncertaine? When in my life started to be uncertain? We are not born uncertain so when do we change? In my case maibe because when I was a child I was always interrupted. When I was coloring, I was told,” don’t color outside of the lines!” Why? It’s my coloring book?
“You have to write with upper case letter” Why it is my story I can write however I want! I alwayse argued about what I want, and I didn’t wanted to follow the rules. The only explanation received at that time was “ you need to know how to duplicate, you need to follow the rules!”
That is so wrong! I am sure that other people also have an issue following the rules, copying others. I don’t want to be Alice the neighbor who’s only problem is why the family that lives across the street from her has dark shades on their windoe all day. The world is so big and so full of interesting things! I want to learn something new every day about the world and not limmit my knoledge to the neighbours on my street. Hell, I don’t even know my neighbours names ( beside Alice, who always invites herself for a cup of cofee when she sees me playing outside with my kids. And I don’t even drink coffe).
I always avoided doing things that makes me unceertain about myself. When my friend started smoking, I sad NO. When they started doing drugs, I said NO Hell! I don’t even take heade ache pills when my head hurts. How about the weight loss pills? NO way….I will stick to the healty food and going to the gym. That makes me happy. That makes me confident about myself. That’s just me! Also, finances makes me uncertain. Even when I have money I am worried about the money. Money will not make me more certain; money will not make me happy. How about you?
Many times when I am not certain about a decision that I have to make, even a business decision I will talk to my husband about it. Even if he doesn’t have a clue about what I am talking about most of the times because he is not in my space, I always ask him about his oppinion. Sometimes just to hear myself reasoning about it.
Somehow he always helped me take the best decision because we are on the same page. When you are on the same page with somebody, He /she might have a better idea then your lawyer about what is the best thing for you to do.
The marriage is a business; It is the most important partnership that people can have in a lifetime. Everybody needs to have his/ her role established in this partnership. If you ask for an, advise from your partner at the end of the day, you have to respect his decision because it belongs to him/her. Let your partner take the decision that he/ she thinks it’s the right one for them don’t force them to take your decision because ultimatelly it will ruin your partnership.It will ruin your partners confidence that he can make the right decision.
These are thinks that influence me. I need to have my confidence up every day. I can not afford one day to lose it! I am way to ambitious and way to focus on what I want to do, on what are my goals. Whatever it’s slow’s me down I don’t want it in my life!
Maybe I’m not the best looking women out there or the tallest on. Maybe my focus is not on my make up, my hair or the close I were, but I know I am confident, I’m on my game, I am showing up every day to learn something new to face my life, I am ethical, and all these makes me sexy. It makes me sexier than the girl consorned about what to where or what make up to put on for Saturday night. Maybe that’s intresting for her partner for a couple of weeks but how about after the first date is over and he realizez he has nothing in commen with that girl.
A sucesful and confident women will always be sexy and intriduing no matter matter in what stage of the relationship are you in. What’s sexier than a women who knows were she’s going and what she wants from life?
The question remains what can we do to build up that level of confidence? What do I do? I do classes, always learnning new things, a read books about motivation and confidence, I studdie other succesful womans. I look at myself like at a bank account. Every action I take will be a deposit or a wridrawell from my level of confidence. I have to keep invest in myself. I know that these investments will make me rich one day.
Questions that I have every morning following me through the day are: How do I fell about myself today? What can I do to make a deposit and not a whidraw? How about you?