Todays House Wife

No Negativity!

 

Even if the money is tight people will pay more for a positive and enjoyable experience than they will pay for a great product. Show me a person who doesn’t want to fill good and I will show you someone who you don’t want to be around.

qoute by Grand Cardone

Take for example the Halloween. My kids and I went to trick or treat in the neighbourhood. We knocked on a lot of doors and got lots of candies but I noticed that at the doors where people came out with a smile on their face, my girls were getting instantly comfortable to get the candies while at the doors where we find some terrible attitude, an angry mom or a bored dad, my girls were getting suspicious and not reaching for the candy at all. I just learned an important lesson from my girls. Your attitude does matters. Even if you are selling, something or you are selling yourself, the way you present it matters.

It’s easy for people to say no to a product, service or even a person, but its hard to say no to a positive experience with another human been because we want to feel good.

If you want to fell, good, adopt a positive attitude all the time and keep it positive.

My most important tip is: try to avoid television, radio and newspaper. The only news that the media delivers are bad news: another crisis or a new threat driven by political agendas. The media is forced to propagate lies on one side and please the advertisers on the other side.

In 10 minutes of watching tv, they will convince you that it’s good and fun to be a travesty and during the break a farmaceutical company will try to convince you that you are depressed, and the depression is a disease, and if you are not depressed then it’s something else wrong with you.

You have to control what get’s in your mind and when it gets in, in order to succeed in life.

Maya Angelson quote

Gandhi quote

What you get from the television or radio any day and any time is the threat of another crisis, war, shortage of some kind, disease, economic scares, fear, racism, hate and failure.

I refuse to watch television or listen to the radio in the presence of my children because I know it will destroy their hopes in humanity and alter the path they will take in life.

Instead of letting in all this negative information we chose to spend time together in the nearby park, read a book together or just watch a fun and positive movie of our choice.

Our children learn the language of the world from a young age. Every time they are exposed to information they will try to process it and make sense of it. Children will copy everything they see. If they see at the television that dressing provocative is fine and normal all the time, they will do the same. If they grow up in an environment where swearing is normal, drugs are normal, and see these things every day, they will end up doing the same. The media is no different The content they throughout on our children is full of violence and sexual connotations. Do you think all this won’t affect your kids? Think again!

Every winter the media spends hours each day to convince you that the flu season is coming, that you are susceptible, that millions of people will get the flu. Sometimes I think people get the flu only because is so heavily promoted with such a dedication.They get everyone thinking about the flu, worrying about the flu, talking about the flu, and people will start to think they are getting the flu until they finally do get the flu!

When media starts to promote recession, people will tighten up, and this perpetuates exactly what was promoted even if it’s no recession on the horizon.

The entire economy can be frozen by what is promoted on television, radio and newspaper. The attitude of the entire nation can be shifted from positive to negative in a few minutes just to influence the action of people. If the attitude and actions of millions of people can be influenced by news, certainly your attitude can influence at least one other person for good or bad.

Not only the television, radio or newspaper can influence your decision. The things that you can find online are also a huge part of the game. Do not believe what the first stranger with a nice looking blog (like mineJ ) is telling you. Do your research about the subject you are interested in.

One of my recent experience with such blogs was a few months back when I needed to ship my car between states as we recently moved and with two kids I just didn’t wanted to waste the time on driving when our flight was under 3 hours, and the car drive with all the stops could have been taken us probably 2 days.

Doing my research on transportation companies, I was surprised how companies are out there that pretend they offer transportation service but, in fact, they are transportation brokers, and they will find an auto transport company for you for a broker fee. That would have been ok with me because I wasn’t going to waste my time looking all over the internet for an auto transport company cause they are hard to find, they don’t really advertise themselves.The one thing that stop me was the brokers websites. I had so many questions about what can I put in my trunk or do I have to remove the cover from my spare tire, so I started to read their blogs. So much negativity for the actual transport company even if the broker makes his money on the truckers back. Brokers underestimate the carriers who are doing the actual moving of your car.No truck, no money for the broker!

Let me tell you some of the reasons why brokers think they are a better choice to work with, then a transport company:

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Of course, they are not. They don’t have trucks to care for; they are only the middleman between the customer and the transport company.

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How is that possible? Aren’t they using the same carriers that I would find when doing my research online?

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Trucks can be unreliable even with dealing with brokers. Brokers can’t control when the trucks broke down! When I am dealing with you as a broker how can you guarantee that the truck you have “easily and quickly found for me won’t break down? Seriously?

Carriers don’t just cancel on their customers they have a truck to fill up. If you have discussed everything up front, they don’t have a reason to cancel.

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These days everybody is offering free shipping quotes, you don’t need a broker for that!

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That is so not true! Carriers understand that the customer wants to shop around and get the best rate, and nobody can pressure you if you want to sleep on it. When I have requested some quotes from brokers and transport companies, no transport company harassed me like the brokers did. I was on the phone with one, and then another one was calling telling me he is giving me 10% off from the price that the other broker offered me. I filled out the free shipping quote form on two brokers websites, but around twenty brokers called me. When I filled out the form on a transport companies website, I have received only one phone call. I will let you chose wich one you prefer.

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A carrier runs the same trip over and over again sometimes for years; they know how many miles they need to run and how much their fuel cost. I am sure they don’t need the broker to tell them how much it will cost to run that trip.

The price offered by the carrier I have chosen to work with was way less than all the twenty brokers offered me. It’s the way it should be as the broker needs to add his own fee to the job. Let’s just do a simple math here. If the broker is paying to the carrier that he “easily and quickly “found an amount of $X  and his broker fee is $Y, then I will need to pay $X+$Y working with a broker but only $X when working with a carrier? Huh?! Wich one should I choose?

I chosed to work with a carrier just because I don’t like negative people and mostly negative people who do not appreciate their business partner. No trucks no money for the broker! I was not charged any extra fees, and I paid less then I would have paid using a broker who probably would have reached out to the same carrier.

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These days everybody has a cell phone, and most of the trucks have GPS tracking systems installed on them. If the trucking company can’t communicate with his own driver, how can a broker communicate with the driver???

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This is probably true for some of the carriers but if you ask for a door- to –door service they can tell you if they are offering it or not.

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Of course, the carrier will have a lower price compared to the price offered by a transportation broker because this way you don’t have to pay the broker fee. Maybe there are some transport companies that practise this kind of things but that can happen to brokers also no? Aren’t they using the same transport companies they are so complaining about?

My advice is just go online and do your research. There are hundreds of website, and some of them are review sites. Also ask around on Facebook, Twiter, neighbours and family members. I am sure you will find somebody that has shipped a car in his life. Ask about their experience and then decide for yourself.

Don’t let the brokers who are trying to make a living on the truckers back to discourage you to work with a real trucking company, because at the end of the day not one broker will pick up your car or deliver it to your house. You will be surprised how good of a job carriers do without brokers help.

At least you can have your contact with the transport company and decide if you like how they treat you.

Source: Sale or be sold by Grant Cardone

Where is my level of confidence?

Nobody teaches you about how to manage your business or manage your relationships or marriage. Everybody tries to do the best that they can.
How to make your business and your marriage work? Even if it’s not going to be perfect, you just have to figure it out by yourself because no one gives you an instruction manual.
What happens when the business and the marriage clays together? Why is so much negative publicity about marriages? Why do so many marriages end up in divorce?
Yes, sometimes it can be hard work to maintain a marriage but just like anything else it’s worth fighting for! Would you fight for your job if you were sure that it’s the right job for you? Of course, you would if you know your other option would be a boring 9 to 5 job. Why should be marriage different? Marriage can be successful! Two people can get along and work it out and be more beneficial and successful because of that. You have to discuss your thoughts with your partner, your wishes, your ideas. You have to be on the same page for the marriage to work. You have to support each other, not impose your decision on your partner. You have to be certain about yourself, and you have to know your partner and be certain about him / her.

If you are uncertain about your life, just take a step back, look at your life and try to eliminate those things that makes you uncertain about yourself. There are a lot of things that can make me lose confidence and be uncertain about myself, but I know that confidence and certainty are the keys of getting what I want from life.
What can we do to increase our confidence level?

First of all and most important surround yourself with confident people that have sweg and focus. If you hear every day about other people’s success and you know you can achieve it and you work hard you will become succesfull. If you surround yourself with people who are complaining every day about how owfell their life is, how they become a victim of everything you will becom a victim and you will feel sorry for yourself. You will stop dreaming; you will stop fighting for your dream. Best advice? Stop watching TV! You want news? Get them online! Stop watching all the negative shows about how people fight, about the new shootings in the suburbs. Invest that time in yourself. Spend more time with people who know what they want and and they get it what ever it takes! Quit doing the things that makes you be uncertain about yourself because self esteem is the self inflected injury of others actions

When you work extra hours it makes you fell better about yourself, when you work out at the gym it makes you feel proud about your body. Even if my body is a little chuncky, I feel better because I worked out today! I know I am on the right path, so my self estime is biger then when I start complaining about my body and not doing anything about it. I will do anything I can to make an investement in myself, to make me stand taller, to make me run faster, it worth investing in. Short periods of study, learning new things can give me confidence. I know next time when I will bump in the same problem I will know how to handle it, I will know what to say. It’s all about your confidence.

Things that makes me unconfortable like confronting people chosing to just let it go, not having the hard talk at the right moment, makes me uncertain about myself. I know that if I will be confident enough to stand up for myself, I will fill better about myself. What you do and things you avoid doing contribute to your certainity and uncertainity.
What makes me certain about myself are small things like writing down my goals every morning when I wake up. This keeps me focus about where I’m going with my life. It helps me focus on my goals and not waste my time with things that are not important.
I keep my planner full with activities. Beginning from business meetings and ending with my kids swim classes it’s always full. I don’t have a single hour when I don’t have anything to do!
You are probably asking yourself right now why do I do that? I’m just triying to be the best that I can be; I am trying to reach my potencial.

Why are people uncertaine? When in my life started to be uncertain? We are not born uncertain so when do we change? In my case maibe because when I was a child I was always interrupted. When I was coloring, I was told,” don’t color outside of the lines!” Why? It’s my coloring book?
“You have to write with upper case letter” Why it is my story I can write however I want! I alwayse argued about what I want, and I didn’t wanted to follow the rules. The only explanation received at that time was “ you need to know how to duplicate, you need to follow the rules!”
That is so wrong! I am sure that other people also have an issue following the rules, copying others. I don’t want to be Alice the neighbor who’s only problem is why the family that lives across the street from her has dark shades on their windoe all day. The world is so big and so full of interesting things! I want to learn something new every day about the world and not limmit my knoledge to the neighbours on my street. Hell, I don’t even know my neighbours names ( beside Alice, who always invites herself for a cup of cofee when she sees me playing outside with my kids. And I don’t even drink coffe).

I always avoided doing things that makes me unceertain about myself. When my friend started smoking, I sad NO. When they started doing drugs, I said NO Hell! I don’t even take heade ache pills when my head hurts. How about the weight loss pills? NO way….I will stick to the healty food and going to the gym. That makes me happy. That makes me confident about myself. That’s just me! Also, finances makes me uncertain. Even when I have money I am worried about the money. Money will not make me more certain; money will not make me happy. How about you?
Many times when I am not certain about a decision that I have to make, even a business decision I will talk to my husband about it. Even if he doesn’t have a clue about what I am talking about most of the times because he is not in my space, I always ask him about his oppinion. Sometimes just to hear myself reasoning about it.
Somehow he always helped me take the best decision because we are on the same page. When you are on the same page with somebody, He /she might have a better idea then your lawyer about what is the best thing for you to do.

The marriage is a business; It is the most important partnership that people can have in a lifetime. Everybody needs to have his/ her role established in this partnership. If you ask for an, advise from your partner at the end of the day, you have to respect his decision because it belongs to him/her. Let your partner take the decision that he/ she thinks it’s the right one for them don’t force them to take your decision because ultimatelly it will ruin your partnership.It will ruin your partners confidence that he can make the right decision.
These are thinks that influence me. I need to have my confidence up every day. I can not afford one day to lose it! I am way to ambitious and way to focus on what I want to do, on what are my goals. Whatever it’s slow’s me down I don’t want it in my life!
Maybe I’m not the best looking women out there or the tallest on. Maybe my focus is not on my make up, my hair or the close I were, but I know I am confident, I’m on my game, I am showing up every day to learn something new to face my life, I am ethical, and all these makes me sexy. It makes me sexier than the girl consorned about what to where or what make up to put on for Saturday night. Maybe that’s intresting for her partner for a couple of weeks but how about after the first date is over and he realizez he has nothing in commen with that girl.
A sucesful and confident women will always be sexy and intriduing no matter matter in what stage of the relationship are you in. What’s sexier than a women who knows were she’s going and what she wants from life?
The question remains what can we do to build up that level of confidence? What do I do? I do classes, always learnning new things, a read books about motivation and confidence, I studdie other succesful womans. I look at myself like at a bank account. Every action I take will be a deposit or a wridrawell from my level of confidence. I have to keep invest in myself. I know that these investments will make me rich one day.
Questions that I have every morning following me through the day are: How do I fell about myself today? What can I do to make a deposit and not a whidraw? How about you?

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